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Originally Posted by Here Am I
Good reply, Brother George.
If one doesn't have a relationship with Christ, it doesn't matter how one 'feels' or what one 'experiences'. Hell is full of people, I'm sure, who 'thought' they were doing the right thing, who were convinced that if they 'believed' in Jesus, they would go to Heaven. "...Lord, Lord..."
One comment, as a 'weaker vessel':
I have noticed, and experienced that many Christian husbands not only do not lead, but are often much less mature than their wives. What would you suggest for those women, in absence of someone able to teach them?
Personally, I've tried to learn on my own, but I would love it if my husband were able to teach me. In the meanwhile, my King James Bible and the Holy Spirit teach me. (1 John 2:27)
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Aloha sister,
You have presented a very complicated situation - one which I confess is very difficult to answer. (and I certainly don't have all the answers!)
First off I believe that it behooves you to
continue to be the kind of wife that you have striven to be: faithful, loving, and in submission. [
1 Peter 3:1-6]
The best thing (I personally believe) that could happen to your husband would be if he would form a friendship (or friendships) with a real Bible believing Christian man.
[Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.]
In the 50 years that I have been a Christian - I have found that outside of God and God's Holy word, a good Bible believing Christian friend can be a real help and a blessing in a Christian
man's life. I am really blessed, in that I have at least 7 good Christian friends (all men - going back to 1968 up to the present - most live off Island) and that my wife is not in the least bit jealous of these friendships (as a matter of fact she encourages them).
In addition, although I am "friendly" with several Christian women - I have no
close friendships with any woman - other than my wife, and would never seek such a friendship.
You cannot force your husband into such a beneficial "friendship", but you can pray that God would bring along some Bible believing Christian man that might befriend your husband.
One more word of caution - Unlike most women, my wife has never formed the kind of
close friendships with other women that most American women form. Her entire life has been devoted to her God, her husband, and her children (in that order). And as such, most women avoid her because of her "
chaste conversation coupled with fear" and "
the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit".
If a Christian woman (like my wife) chooses to live her life according to the Scriptures, it may cost her some close
relationships with "
friends" (and possibly
family), but on the other hand, because my wife has chosen to put God and Family first, she is greatly loved and appreciated - not only by myself, but by our entire family (at present - 6 grown children; 17 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren; and one grown son, who is presently at home with the Lord); and is greatly respected by all of my Christian friends; and by the community we live in.
It's a sad state of affairs that there are so many Christian wives that are more concerned with the things of God than their husbands. I attribute that to our Humanistic society that portrays Christian men as "
pansies", "
wimps", and effeminate "
fops" (and sadly many are!
) . A real man tries to avoid such labels, but in doing so he is often influenced by the "fear of man" into avoiding living for Christ.
Pray. "Pray without ceasing". Pray that God will convict and convince your husband of his need to live his life according to the Scriptures; continue to follow the Scriptures yourself; and don't despair - It took over 20 years before I fully appreciated my wife, and another 10 years before I
began to fully appreciate my Lord!
Proverbs 29:25 The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.
Psalms 4:5 Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, and put your trust in the LORD.
Psalms 73:28 But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord GOD, that I may declare all thy works.
Psalms 115:11 Ye that fear the LORD, trust in the LORD: he is their help and their shield.
Psalms 118:8 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.