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Originally Posted by aussiemama
I will add one more thing...I don't know how interracial couples manage...my husband and I are in a cross cultural marriage (both European) and even that is hard enough!
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Aloha Aussiemama,
It's all very simple really. My wife and I have been married for 47.5 years and in all of those years I have never seen another couple that are of "
One Mind" and of "
One Heart" as we are.
#1. We are from different "races": She = Filipina & I am Caucasian.
#2. We are from different "cultures": She = Filipino/Hawaiian & I am New England/American.
#3. We were both very "young": she = 17 was years of age & I was 20.
#4. We both came from different "religions": she was Roman Catholic & I was a fairly new Bible believing Christian (no particular "Denomination").
We didn't have "3 strikes" against us - We had 4 "strikes" against us!
How did we make it? LOVE & GRACE! First of all, there has been God's love and His grace - in that around three years after we were married my wife got saved (received the Lord Jesus Christ as her personal Saviour), which solved any of the differences that existed between us {we both now had "the mind of Christ"}.
Secondly, we both have never let
anything or
anyone come between us! That means houses & lands; money, bank accounts, or possessions. It also included: mothers & fathers; sisters & brothers; aunts or uncles; children or friends. We have been ONE, not only in flesh, but also in heart and in mind.
The order of our "priorities" are: God First (in everything); Our marriage second (before children & friends); and everything else in their order. In 47 years of marriage, I can honestly say that the word "
DIVORCE" has never entered my mind - No not once!
In the last 10 years we have had perfect strangers (
mostly women) come up to us and exclaim: "
You look so happy together"; or "
When I see you together, it makes me feel so good"; or "
I am encouraged about my marriage when I see you both together"; etc. My wife and I have been sitting in a restaurant and a woman (a perfect stranger) has come up to her and said: "
have you ever seen the way he (me)
looks at you?"
Why do suppose it has been this way for 47+ years? Because it was genuine "love" to begin with, and there was a definite "commitment" on both of our parts to MARRIAGE (God's Institution) FIRST, and each other SECOND. And whenever our love and devotion to each other may have "
faltered" (and it has on a very few occasions), our COMMITMENT to God and to our marriage (God's Institution) has carried us through.
My wife is the closest woman that I have ever met to beineg God's "perfect" woman {
Proverbs 31}. I have never met another Christian couple that are as "close" together as we are. I'm sure they are out there - It's just in the 50 years that I have been saved, I personally have not seen it.
If your "priorities" are right {as a couple}, you can overcome all "
obstacles". If you allow "
anything" or "
anyone" to come between you {as a couple} you're going to have "
problems".
